Nox Mafu's Blog

In a world of sarcasm we always seem to fall short of inflicting positive in our lives as much as we could. Specifically, positive in this case being pro-active actions. It is of course each and everyone’s wish to lead a happy life. So no matter how others may prefer to be cynical about life, in reality, whether they fail to admit that to the rest, still survive for happiness.

We’re so trapped on wanting to be ‘cool,’ ‘progressive,’ ‘light hearted,’ ‘independent’ and whatever appealing labels we often want to be associated with while in the true sense do nothing other than suppressing people from seeking certain answers from their counterparts.

As much as there’s a lot in books or talk shows said about relationships in general, it remains a taboo has to ask partners, friends, colleagues, neighbors or people with a potential of being with us specific questions.

Partners fear that once they ask specific questions to their partners, their partners might think negative (as desperate) about them. While people may claim to be secure and liberal enough to pose whatever questions they see fit from others, it is a fact that in actuality, they seldom ask relevant questions in interactions with others. Instead they tend to spend more time on issues that might not be as influential in their relationships compared to the others that they say nothing about.

How often were you asked where you see yourself in a amount of years other that in jobs’ interviews?

Has this question or questions like this ever been asked to you by your friends, family members, colleagues, partner or prospective partner?

How do you view their questioning of your plans?

Don’t you think that this is an appropriate question for you to pose to others or to be asked to you by your friends, colleagues, family members, partner and/or prospective?

Regardless of your answers to these questions, the fact is that, in a case of where you’re going to drive a car, you still need to evaluate it’s condition before getting seated and start driving. You should have a destination and a roadmap towards that destination.

As a matter of fact, to a large extent this transcends to our relationships with others. When one fails to discuss issues of:

• Where they are in life? [not where they should be or failed to be]
• Where they are heading?
• What they are doing about that?
• How they are heading there?
• Who shall be in their company?

…they are not only delusional about their own lives, but also pose as mishap in other people’s lives whom they are to interact with. If you happen to be one of those people to come across such people, of which a scenario you never know about until you review, just do how you’d do before driving a car for your safety as well as maintenance of that car’s life: Ask relevant questions and seek answers.

It is your responsibility to embark in any form of relationship through well-informed decisions. You need to know clearly the state in which your partner is at in order for you to be a better link towards reaching the destination. You may not necessarily follow a rigid roadmap while moving towards your destination when you’re in relationships with a person. Actually, as much as you may come into a relationship with separate destinations, at some point there should be some marriage of your destinations. One way or the other, while you keep your independence, your partner’s existence in your life has an impact on attainment of your destination. Anybody who cares about their partner enough stop to have a separated destination from that of the other. This is in the sense that each one needs the other’s contribution towards that their initiated destination. So it becomes “our” destination. The gist of the thing here is to find yourself with somebody with a sense of direction towards an envisaged destination.